Der Bruch

Es gibt sehr viele Brüche in unserem Leben, Beinbrüche, Ehebruch, Abbruch einer Ausbildung, finanzielle Einbrüche, Ausbruch von Krisen, Aufbruch zu neuen Ufern …..

Ihnen werden bestimmt noch zahlreiche andere Brüche einfallen. Manchmal kommen uns Brüche im Leben gelegen, häufig kommen sie eher ungelegen. Bei Brüchen müssen wir Verluste hinnehmen, Neues lernen und Neues beginnen.

Warum erscheinen uns Brüche in Biographien so außergewöhnlich und schwer zu verkraften? Das Leben besteht aus Energien, Energien wollen fließen, wie der Fluss im Flussbett, wie das Blut in den Adern, wie der Wind am Himmel und die Wellen des Meeres.

Weil wir Menschen Veränderungen als mühsam empfinden, wehren wir uns dagegen. Wir versuchen das Leben und die Energien zu kontrollieren. Aus dem Wunsch nach Sicherheit entstehen Absolutismus und Automatismen mit Gesetzen, Normen, Verbote und Strafen. Dies führt wiederum früher oder später zum Bruch. Erst wenn wir das Wasser aufstauen entsteht der Dammbruch, wenn wir zu schnell oder mit falscher Belastung unterwegs sind, entstehen Knochenbrüche, wenn wir uns als Partner nicht achten, kommt es zum Ehebruch. Wenn das Leben langweilig wird wollen wir aufbrechen. Wenn wir die Energie vor dem Bruch falsch einschätzen, nicht beurteilen können oder nicht achtsam sind, entstehen Brüche. Sehr viele Brüche können wir verhindern, andere entschärfen und wir können uns unterstützen, damit wir das Leben trotz so mancher Brüche wieder meistern können.

Leider lernen wir weder den Umgang mit Energien, noch den Umgang mit Brüchen. In der Schule gibt es dazu kein Schulfach und in der Familie werden Krisen aus Scham und Schuldgefühlen verschwiegen. Vermutlich könnten wir alle viel besser leben, wenn wir die Energien frei fließen lassen und lernen mit Brüchen besser umzugehen.

Eine schöne neue Woche und viel Mut bei allen derzeitigen Ein- und Zusammenbrüchen. Vielleicht lehrt uns das Leben gerade eine wichtige Lektion: den Umgang mit Brüchen.

In diesem Sinne viel Mut für den eigenen Aufbruch und Durchbruch.

Eine schöne neue Woche

Gertrud Müller

Ruptures

There are many ruptures in our lives, leg fractures, marriages breaking up,  drop-outs from education, financial slump, the start of something new, …. I am sure you can think of many other ruptures in life. Sometimes they are welcome, sometimes rather unwelcome. When these ruptures occur, we have to find new information, learn new things, accept losses and dare to do and begin new things. Ruptures appear in every biography, yet why do they seem so extraordinary and difficult to deal with for us?

Life is made up of energy, energy wants to flow, like the river in the river bed, like blood through blood vessels, like the wind in the sky and the waves of the sea.

Since us humans experience ruptures as hard to deal with, we resist them. We try to control life and its energies. The desire to be safe results in absolutisms with laws, norms, prohibition, punishment with systems and automatisms, which sooner or later again lead to a rupture. Only when we dam up water does a dam burst, when we move too quickly or under strain bones fracture, when we don’t respect each other as partners, a marriage breaks up. When we’ve chosen the wrong qualification, we feel the urge to drop out. When life gets boring, we want to get going…. When we don’t correctly assess the energies just before a major change, or are not attentive, ruptures emerge. Many ruptures can be prevented, others defused, and we can support each other when ruptures happen so that we can manage life again despite those changes.

Unfortunately, we are not taught how to deal with life energies or with ruptures in life. There is no such subject area in school, and family crises are concealed due to shame and feelings of guilt.

Presumably, we could all live much better if we let energies flow freely and learned to deal with life’s ruptures better.

Have a good week and lots of courage to deal with all your current ruptures. Maybe live is just teaching us an important lessons: dealing with life’s ruptures. In this spirit, I’m wishing you courage for your own new beginnings and breakthroughs.

Have a nice week

Gertrud Müller

Ruptures

There are many ruptures in our lives, leg fractures, marriages breaking up,  drop-outs from education, financial slump, the start of something new, …. I am sure you can think of many other ruptures in life. Sometimes they are welcome, sometimes rather unwelcome. When these ruptures occur, we have to find new information, learn new things, accept losses and dare to do and begin new things. Ruptures appear in every biography, yet why do they seem so extraordinary and difficult to deal with for us?

Life is made up of energy, energy wants to flow, like the river in the river bed, like blood through blood vessels, like the wind in the sky and the waves of the sea.

Since us humans experience ruptures as hard to deal with, we resist them. We try to control life and its energies. The desire to be safe results in absolutisms with laws, norms, prohibition, punishment with systems and automatisms, which sooner or later again lead to a rupture. Only when we dam up water does a dam burst, when we move too quickly or under strain bones fracture, when we don’t respect each other as partners, a marriage breaks up. When we’ve chosen the wrong qualification, we feel the urge to drop out. When life gets boring, we want to get going…. When we don’t correctly assess the energies just before a major change, or are not attentive, ruptures emerge. Many ruptures can be prevented, others defused, and we can support each other when ruptures happen so that we can manage life again despite those changes.

Unfortunately, we are not taught how to deal with life energies or with ruptures in life. There is no such subject area in school, and family crises are concealed due to shame and feelings of guilt.

Presumably, we could all live much better if we let energies flow freely and learned to deal with life’s ruptures better.

Have a good week and lots of courage to deal with all your current ruptures. Maybe live is just teaching us an important lessons: dealing with life’s ruptures. In this spirit, I’m wishing you courage for your own new beginnings and breakthroughs.

Have a nice week

Gertrud Müller

 

Krieg und Frieden

Derzeit hören wir wieder viel Säbelgerassel, heute müsste es eher heißen, wir hören Drohnenbrummen und so manche Uranspalterei.

In meiner Jugend gab es den Spruch: „Stell dir vor, es gibt Krieg und keiner geht hin.“ Heute kein Thema mehr. Die Kriegswaffen können ihre Ziele ansteuern, ohne dass sie von Menschenhand dazu aufgefordert werden. Die Maschinen lernen, wer der Feind ist und exekutiert werden muss. Wie soll in so einer Welt Frieden möglich sein?

Es scheint nahezu unmöglich. Und dennoch, gerade dann, wenn in der Geschichte etwas unmöglich erschien, kam der Durchbruch. Je mehr Chaos, Krankheit und Not sich verbreiten, desto mehr müssen die Menschen sich gegenseitig helfen, sie müssen neue Wege gehen,neues lernen und sie müssen miteinander teilen.

Uns wird heute gesagt, wie wertvoll es ist, an der Börse zu spekulieren. Bis zum Oktober 1929 glaubten das die Menschen auch, mein Urgroßvater verlor damals das gesamte Vermögen und dennoch konnten sie überleben, weil sie in der Großfamilie miteinander teilten, voneinander lernten und sich in der Not halfen. Diese drei Verhaltenseigenschaften sind die wichtigste Investition, um in Notzeiten und Krieg zu überleben und in Friedenszeiten und guten Zeiten, das Leben zu achten und zu bewahren.

In diesem Sinne, arbeiten wir an der Investition: helfen, teilen, lernen. Das kostet nichts und bringt großen Nutzen zu allen Zeiten.

Schönes Wochenende

Gertrud Müller

We currently hear much sabre rattling again, or more fitting today, we hear the hum of war drones and some fission of uranium. When I was young, we had a slogan: “suppose they gave a war and nobody came”. This isn’t an issue any more today. Weapons of war can find their way without an assisting human hand.  Machines learn who the enemy is and who needs to be executed. How could peace be possible in a world like this? It seems almost impossible. And yet, whenever something seemed impossible in history, a breakthrough followed. The more chaos, illness and deprivation spread, the more people have to help each other, have to learn to find new ways together and share  amongst each other whatever is still there. Today, we are told how worthwhile it is to invest in the stock markets. People believed that up to October 1929 my great grandfather lost all his wealth at the time and they still survived because in a big family, they shared, learnt from each other and could help each other in times of hardship. These three qualities are the most important investment to survive difficult times and war, and to respect and protect life in good times.  On this note, let’s work on investing in helping, sharing and learning. It’s free of cost and beneficial at all times.

Have a good weekend.

War and peace

We currently hear much sabre rattling again, or more fitting today, we hear the hum of war drones and some fission of uranium. When I was young, we had a slogan: “suppose they gave a war and nobody came”. This isn’t an issue any more today. Weapons of war can find their way without an assisting human hand.  Machines learn who the enemy is and who needs to be executed. How could peace be possible in a world like this? It seems almost impossible. And yet, whenever something seemed impossible in history, a breakthrough followed. The more chaos, illness and deprivation spread, the more people have to help each other, have to learn to find new ways together and share  amongst each other whatever is still there. Today, we are told how worthwhile it is to invest in the stock markets. People believed that up to October 1929 my great grandfather lost all his wealth at the time and they still survived because in a big family, they shared, learnt from each other and could help each other in times of hardship. These three qualities are the most important investment to survive difficult times and war, and to respect and protect life in good times.  On this note, let’s work on investing in helping, sharing and learning. It’s free of cost and beneficial at all times.

Have a good weekend.

Gertrud Müller